(Clearwisdom.net) Some practitioners in our local area don't get along well with their family members and this interferes with their spreading the Fa and clarifying the truth. There are several reasons: first, there are problems with our xinxing cultivation; second, the evil beings are interfering.
Some practitioners cannot treat their families with compassion and mistakenly interpret this as not being attached to their families. Some practitioners cannot follow the Dafa standards and fight with their family members like an ordinary person. They haven't thought of their families as sentient beings who need to be saved, therefore allowing them to miss again and again the opportunity to be saved. I recalled the story of my daughter-in-law. I have written it down to share with practitioners on how to improve together. Only when we pay attention to our cultivation and the upgrading of our xinxing in clarifying the truth, can we save our families. This is my understanding at my level, if anything is not appropriate, please be compassionate and point it out.
On the morning of July 3, 2003, my daughter-in-law called me asking where her child was (I had been taking care of my grandchild) and where I had been the day before because she had called and there was no answer. Since my memory was not good and I couldn't remember anything, I simply blurted out, "We didn't go anywhere." My granddaughter then took the phone. I then went to tidy up the bed. Suddenly, I remembered that I had taken the child to the hospital yesterday, and thus I asked my granddaughter to tell her mother quickly. This however annoyed my daughter-in-law, since she thought that I had lied to her.
After hanging up, my daughter-in-law immediately came to my home to get her child. Then she came back to get her things. I opened the door and handed some slippers to her. I didn't expect that my daughter-in-law would suddenly hit me, which dumbfound me. At that time I was a little frightened and escaped to the kitchen. But I calmed down soon, thinking that I was a practitioner and should maintain my xinxing.
When my daughter-in-law found that I wasn't going to fight back, she then started to destroy things. She broke the telephone. She became hysterical and burst into a fury. I didn't say anything, I just kept thinking about Master's teachings about Han Xin who had a heart of great forbearance. "Han Xin was an everyday person after all." (from Zhuan Falun Lecture 9) We are Dafa disciples, how can we deal well with things without great forbearance?
It was already around the noon. I said to her, "Don't be upset anymore. I cooked some spareribs yesterday and didn't eat them. I will cook some rice and we can have lunch together." She suddenly spat in my face, "Poo! Who wants to eat your stinky meal!" I said, "If you don't want lunch, then have some fruit." I peeled a banana and passed it to her. She grabbed the banana and threw it at me. I ducked and it hit the wall. She touched my nose and said, "Aren't you cultivating compassion? Aren't you cultivating forbearance? Today I will let you have a good cultivation opportunity."
Although I didn't argue or fight with her and she was making quite a scene on her own, she still continued to make trouble. She broke into the kitchen. I rapidly hid the knife and then hid in another room. After a while, I smelled gas. She had opened the gas valve so we would perish together. When I closed it, she reopened it, which happened three times. What could I do? I had no choice but to go to her work unit and ask her good friends to persuade her to go home. When she saw her co-workers, she madly rushed at me. It's lucky that they held her back. In this way, she made trouble from morning until 4 p.m. in the afternoon and then went back home.
My daughter-in-law is a family member and has a predestined relationship with me. Should I save her? At first, I thought: If she is to be weeded out, it is ok with me. I then realized immediately that this thought was not mine. I came here to assist Master in Fa-rectification and saving sentient beings. How can I not save her?
My daughter-in-law told me that I was not allowed to see my grandchild, call her on the phone, go to school to see her, or clarify the truth to her. Since I was no longer taking care of my grandchild, I had a lot of free time, so I put more effort into clarifying the truth.
In order to save my daughter-in-law, I came up with many ideas. I posted truth-clarifying materials on her door, put some in the basket of her bicycle, inserted them in the newspapers, put them in her child's backpack and so on. I went to school to get feedback from my granddaughter. I asked her if her mother read the truth-clarification material. The child said, "She threw all the materials into the garbage can while saying some bad words. She also threw away my Dafa things." I said, "You recite "Hong Yin"." The child said, "I'm scared. She hit me and I am afraid." I then found my daughter-in-law's father (he lived with them). I asked him to bring back the truth clarifying booklets and flyers and read them with his daughter. I heard later that she threw all the materials into the garbage can again.
I thought that I'd better go to her home and talk to her in person, so I found excuses to go to her home: bringing the child things to eat, to wear, to use, to play with, to read, or else I went there under the excuse of visiting her father. In this way, I went to her home time after time. She was more and more relaxed each time. I knew that I could make it. Later on, I asked her to come to my home to have dinner. I invited her again and again, and gradually she came over. I told stories to the child so her mother could also listen, including ancient parables, fairy tales, stories of famous cultivators, even the story of Noah's ark. I also talked about my personal experience of the Chinese Communist Party's (CCP) persecution, all kinds of prophecies and so on. My daughter-in-law finally changed her attitude.
During the Chinese New Year of 2005, she gave me 1,000 yuan and apologized to me in front of others (I thought that it was great to be able to use the money for Fa-validation). I took the opportunity of her good attitude to ask her to withdraw from the CCP. She refused. I then told her the importance of getting rid of the mark of the CCP. I told her it could ensure her safety if she withdrew from the CCP and that she should cherish her life for the sake of her child and the whole family. I talked to her many times, and she finally withdrew from the CCP. She not only withdrew from the CCP, but also wanted to learn Falun Dafa. I sent her Zhuan Falun, and The Great Consummation Way of Falun Dafa to read. Since then, she has never thrown away truth-clarification materials and has even started to carry a small card with Dafa words on it.
I thought that even non-practitioners believe that "absolute sincerity can make metal and stone crack." We are practitioners and enlightened beings. If only we have patience, determination, and perseverance, and don't have any human notions or any pursuit, just the one thought to save them, we will surely succeed.
(Editor's note: The practitioner did very well in Compassion and Forbearance. But in the Fa-rectification period, the evil behavior of an everyday person is often caused by the manipulation of evil in other dimensions. So we need to send forth righteous thoughts to eliminate the interference of the evil in other dimensions and at same time clarify the truth to people.)