(Minghui.org) I had been working out of town and returned home in September 2008. My son informed me that while I was gone, my husband had another woman and her daughter stay with them. She was there for more than a month; she finally left because I was coming home.
After hearing this, I was upset and sad. My son was also upset, but he had been afraid to say anything to his father.
I had trouble pulling myself together. I practice Falun Dafa and I needed to face this tribulation calmly and be a good person throughout the ordeal
I confronted my husband. He did not know what to say, nor did he change his behavior. When he received a phone call from the woman, he often left to meet her, and sometimes he would be gone for many days.
I chose not to argue with him. I studied theFa, took care of my son, and did the five Falun Dafa exercises.
One day, when he was sleeping, I saw a text message on his phone from the woman. It made me sad, and I could not help but cry. I remembered that Master Li (the Teacher of Falun Dafa) has taught us to look within and correct ourselves in any conflict. So I began to look within.
I recognized many of my shortcomings, such as not keeping the house neat and clean. More importantly, I did not like any kind of criticism, and I looked down on my husband, always finding fault with him.
I then began to notice his strengths: He was neat and tidy, spoke in a softer tone, was helpful and could endure hardships. He was better than me at household chores.
I made up my mind to change. I began to take much better care of the house. When my father-in-law had surgery, I took care of him. He was moved to tears. Whenever my sister-in-law or brother-in-law needed a hand, I gave them my full support. I was trying my best to change and to be a good person.
Our entire family got together to celebrate my father's 80th birthday. During the festivities, I noticed the woman had called my husband's cell phone. I decided to call her, and I walked over to a quiet corner of the restaurant.
I spoke kindly: “Hi, the other day I saw the text message from you to my husband. I don't hate you. You have had to take care of your child alone, and I know it is not easy. I am a woman with a child too. I understand.”
“I know my husband helps you. When something needs to be fixed, he can fix it.”
“I have helped you as well. For instance, when your child suffered from a toothache, I asked a doctor what to do about it and then had my husband tell you. Another time you didn't have a warm jacket, and it was cold, so I gave up one of mine for you.”
“I did it because I felt that your life was not easy either. You have not walked on an upright path, but you can change. You know what I believe in, and that's why I have been tolerant of you.”
“I wish you happiness, but happiness only comes when one walks the right path.”
I could tell she felt ashamed. I knew she understood what I was saying. Soon after, she moved away.
On Chinese New Year's Eve, my husband drank some wine. He began to cry and said he was very sorry for how he had treated me. He said it in front of all our family. He also said that he wanted to make up for his past behavior. I began to cry too.
I truly know–It was Falun Dafa that saved my family. And it was Falun Dafa that helped me face such a tribulation with compassion.