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Letting Go of Resentment and Treating My Mother-in-Law With Kindness

March 21, 2026 |   By a Falun Dafa practitioner in Shandong Province, China

(Minghui.org) I began practicing Falun Dafa in the winter of 2010. I’m now 65 years old and I retired from teaching. I grew up in the countryside. After I graduated from high school, a friend introduced me to a man from a scholarly family in my county. We had nothing after we got married. My mother-in-law gave me 40 yuan, a bed, a desk, and a wooden chest. We eventually had a son, and we bought more furniture. The three of us got by.

My husband became gravely ill in 1990. He was only 37 years old, but he became disabled. He couldn’t work, and our family faced hardship. Teachers’ salaries were meager back then, and we relied solely on my income. I worked during the day and cared for my child and sick husband at night.

My mother-in-law looked down on me because I was a country girl. She felt entitled to boss me around since I was responsible for many of the things she used to do. I had to take care of the household chores, and she didn’t care how exhausted I was. If I didn’t meet her standard, she yelled at me and spoke to me in a sarcastic tone. I treated her with kindness, but she was never happy with me.

On top of that, my husband lost more than 100,000 yuan in a clothing manufacturing business venture funded by a bank loan. The bank sued him when he couldn’t repay it. They began deducting my salary every month to cover the debt. I had to borrow money from my colleagues’ housing mortgage loan to settle my husband’s debt.

I felt so bitter. I had no one to talk to, and no one to help me. How could I go on like this? I hated my mother-in-law for looking down on me. I hated my husband for neglecting our family and having affairs. I felt like crying, but I had no tears left. I finally reached my limit and became ill. The diagnosis was devastating―I had liver cirrhosis. My life seemed to be nearing its end.

Just as things looked hopeless, I was fortunate to learn Falun Dafa and saw light at the end of the tunnel. When I read Zhuan Falun, every word and sentence felt like Master was personally teaching me the Fa. I finally found the meaning of life and the essence of our existence.

I learned the exercises from the video where Master demonstrated the movements. When I did them, it felt like my body was shedding a thick layer of clothing. I told my mother-in-law with excitement, “I’ve changed! I’ve changed!”

My mother-in-law sardonically remarked, “You’re still the same person no matter how much you’ve changed.” How could she comprehend the amazing power and profound principles of Falun Dafa?

As I continued to do the exercises and deepen my understanding of the Fa, Master purified my body, and my liver cirrhosis was gone. I felt incredibly good, and my previous difficulties turned into light and hope.

I realized everything arises from our karmic connections, and the debts we’ve accumulated from countless lifetimes. Everything must be repaid. I said in my heart, “Revered Master, you saved my life, purified my body and mind, and taught me to improve my character. Thank you for your saving grace!”

Master said,

“A wicked person is born of jealousy.Out of selfishness and anger he complains about unfairness towards himself.A benevolent person always has a heart of compassion.With no discontentment or hatred, he takes hardship as joy.An enlightened person has no attachments at all.He quietly observes the people of the world deluded by illusions.”(“Realms,” Essentials For Further Advancement)

I followed Master’s teachings and decided to be benevolent rather than act badly. I let go of resentment, treated my family and my mother-in-law with kindness, and didn’t dwell on the past. My bitterness toward my mother-in-law and husband disappeared under the Buddha-light of “Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance.”

My mother-in-law is 93 this year. I took good care of her when she was hospitalized. I made whatever she wanted to eat and helped her bathe. My relatives and neighbors said, “You’re more than a daughter-in-law. You’re like her daughter!”

My mother-in-law said, “You practice Falun Dafa. That’s why you’re so nice and kind.” In her eyes, my actions showed that Dafa is truly good.