(Minghui.org) I married at the age of 24 and discovered that my husband had many vices. He smoked, drank, and gambled. He often returned home drunk late at night and would throw up all over the place. Although I did not say anything, I was very angry.
Once, I heard about a drunk man who fell down outside in the winter and froze to death. It was past midnight and my husband had not come home. I was afraid he had had a drunken accident. I went out to look for him. I finally found him gambling at a construction site. I cried in anger and returned home. When he came back, I started a fight with him.
My in-laws took my husband's side, and after this incident our relationship became strained. There were a lot of conflicts at home and my health suffered. I went to see many doctors and spent a lot of money, but nothing helped. I was emaciated even though I was only in my 30s. I lost hope.
I began to practice Falun Gong in July 1997, and it changed the way I saw things.
Master said:
“According to the theory of yin and yang, females should be gentle and not strong.” ( “ Teaching the Fa at a New York Meeting” from Lectures in the United States)
He also said:
“Self-interest and personal liberty have taken over everything. Where then do you find the warmth of a family? People vie with and try to overcome each other—no one is willing to concede. I’m telling you, that is not how human beings should be! (Applause) When even couples don’t dare to trust each other, and there’s no place that can give you a sense of security, warmth, and affection, aren’t you living a distressing life? In your mind you think to yourselves: “It shouldn’t be like this. We should have a warm and affectionate place.” But your outward behavior is destroying all this, and your selfish traits are making such a place impossible to have. When everyone behaves this way the wonderful relationships among humans are lost.” ( Teaching the Fa at the Eastern U.S. Fa Conference)
I decided to follow Master's teachings and dealt with family conflicts without getting upset.
We had many guests for an occasion and I prepared a lot of food. After everyone had finished eating, it was my turn to sit down and eat. My father-in-law ordered my husband to harvest some vegetables from the field. My husband had already had a few drinks and refused to comply. They started a fight. My mother-in-law in turn put the blame on me. I remembered Master taught us not to fight back when we're beaten or sworn at. I did not get angry and tried to get my mother-in-law to calm down.
In the afternoon, I went to pick the vegetables. It was a lot of work, but I worked hard and did not feel tired. Later on my husband and father-in-law came out of their rooms. Everyone helped to unload the vegetables and things went back to normal.
Through Falun Gong, I understood that family members come to live together as a result of predestined relationships. I treasure this relationship a lot. Consequently, I am able to treat them with kindness no matter how my husband and in-laws treat me. I show concern for them and cook tasty meals. When I go shopping, I ask my in-laws if there is anything they want. My in-laws are always happy and they tell me I take good care of them. They said I'm better than their son and count their blessings.
Unknowingly, all my illnesses disappeared through practicing Falun Gong. For 18 years, I've not taken a single pill or gone to the hospital once. I'm always in good spirits and energetic.
My family is harmonious now. I know this is because I practice Falun Gong. I would like to express my deep gratitude to Master for his compassionate salvation. I hope that more people can experience the goodness of Falun Gong.
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