(Minghui.org) I used to be a selfish and willful person. When I was young I often lost my temper with my parents.
After I got married in 2008, I often had arguments with my husband. Within the first week of marriage, I was already fighting with my husband about things such as who should cook and wash dishes. Whenever something was against my will, I became very angry.
When my husband's parents experienced financial difficulties, my husband went into a 30,000 yuan debt to pay for their medical expenses.
At the beginning of our marriage, all of our savings went to pay for the debt, and we had no money to buy a house. As a result, we borrowed my parents' house, while my parents moved to a housing unit at their work.
I envied my friends who had houses and cars when they got married. I was very unhappy with my life.
Changing Fate
I always liked reading, and I came across many books which claimed that one's fate would be changed after reading them. However, nothing changed for the better until one day I came across the book Zhuan Falun.
Zhuan Falun was different from all other books I had read. It explained so many things which I did not know and had wondered about. When reading Zhuan Falun I could not put it down, and finished the entire book in one afternoon. It changed my fate as well as my family's.
I changed for the first time in my life, and I knew why we were in this world! I learned about “no loss, no gain,” and I realized that I was selfish. I finally understood how to be a good person.
Shortly after reading Zhuan Falun, I became a new person, and my heart was filled with happiness. I decided that I would practice Falun Dafa and follow the principles of “Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance.”
I began to control my temper. One day when I came home from shopping, my husband was angry at me and complained that I bought many useless things and wasted a lot of money.
I argued with him, but after a few sentences, I remembered I was a Falun Dafa cultivator. Master Li (the founder of Falun Dafa) told me to always look within when facing conflicts. So, I tried to think from his point of view, and I found he was right. Most of the things that I bought were useless and I would end up throwing them away sooner or later.
I stopped fighting right away, and the conflict was resolved. I realized that Dafa is truly great.
Although I occasionally had arguments with my husband, I would soon remember that Master told us to be a good person and forbear, and then I would stop. Our conflicts reduced, and my family life became harmonious.
Letting Go of the Attachment to Money
My husband's brother wanted to get married. But his fiancee's family demanded that he must have a house first. My husband and I decided to lend his brother our savings to buy a house.
My parents-in-law were deeply moved, and a colleague of mine said: “You are so kind! Who else would lend money to others to buy a house while you did not have your own house!”
After we finally bought our own house, I invited my in-laws every winter to stay with us, since our house had a better heating system.
My husband's brother then injured his foot. We gave him 5,000 yuan for the medical treatments. When my husband's parents gave us 2,000 yuan, I suggested we not accept it, as they were not well off.
I knew that I probably would not have given the money to his brother or had accepted the money from my husband's parents if I did not practice Falun Dafa! Dafa taught me to always consider other people's needs first.
My husband was a reserved person, and he almost never praised me. One day at a family gathering, my husband told his father that their entire family should thank me, as we are now a very peaceful family.
Remembering the past, I can see that my view of life has completely changed since I began practicing Falun Dafa. Without Dafa, I would not be able to do what I have done.
I want to say from the bottom of my heart, “Falun Dafa is good! Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is good!”
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