(Minghui.org) Before I started practicing Falun Dafa, I was plagued with anemia, bronchitis, nephritis, and a gynecological disorder. I relied on medication all year round, was lethargic, and looked pale and old even though I was in my early 20s. I was always cold and had to wear thick layers of clothes even in the summer.
Shortly after I began practicing Falun Dafa in September 1998, however, all of my ailments disappeared. My heart also opened as I followed the universal principles of Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance in my daily conduct.
Overcoming a Family Crisis
I had a happy family environment before the Wenchaun earthquake in Sichuan Province in 2008.
My husband was a responsible person and always took good care of the family before he was put in charge of the construction project to rebuild the homes damaged in the earthquake. He began to change and he started spending less time with the family and eating out more with his boss and the construction company owners. He would leave early in the morning and come home late at night, sometimes still drunk.
Out of the blue in October 2010, he said he wanted a divorce and left home. I was shocked, as we had been married for over a decade and rarely had any issues.
My husband did not return home after a couple of days and still insisted on getting a divorce. At that time, I had to go to work, make meals for my ill parents, and take care of our high school son. I was depressed and in tears every day.
Even when my parents were both hospitalized and our son was ill, during the Chinese New Year my husband continued to send me text messages to try to force me into a divorce. I thought about ending my life but knew that the teachings of Falun Dafa taught that committing suicide is wrong, so I dropped that idea.
I gradually calmed down and began to study the Falun Dafa books intensively after hearing the sharing of practitioners and having their support.
I thought, “Since I am a practitioner, what am I afraid of?” I knew that I needed to let go of my attachment to sentimentality no matter how painful it was. I also realized it was important to look within to find my shortcomings that led to the situation I was in.
During the process, I gradually let go of the feeling of being wronged, looking for returns, resentment, and wanting to change others. I treated my husband kindly and with sincerity even when he ignored me or said hurtful words. He still did not come back home after six months, but his attitude had changed and he stopped mentioning the divorce.
During that time I found out about my husband's mistress and the real reason why he wanted a divorce. Through cultivating myself solidly, I was able to deal with it with a calm mind because I was no longer the fragile person who depended on him.
The mistress also confronted me in person by threatening me and using profanity. I did not argue with her and ignored her threats. Seeing I was not moved, she went to threaten my husband instead and gave him a hard time. He eventually made up his mind to cut off their relationship and return home.
During the process, I became a stronger and more confident person. Dafa helped me to overcome my tribulation, to be more kind and tolerant, and to understand the power of compassion. I was able to eliminate my attachment to sentimentality and become a true practitioner through the ordeal.
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