(Minghui.org) Because of femur necrosis, my husband stopped working in 2005 and I had to take care of him all the time. With both of us staying at home, we had no income and life was miserable. Because it was so difficult, many times I thought of committing suicide.
In 2006, when I was 30, a relative recommended we learn Falun Dafa. She said only Dafa could save us. Our bad fortune thus became good as we obtained the treasure of cultivating in Dafa.
Dafa Saved My Family
Before I started to practice Falun Dafa, I had lots of conflicts with my husband’s family due to his illness. My mother-in-law asked me to take my husband and seek help from someone that could deal with spirit possession, while I wanted to see doctors. Then she told me to worship statues with spirit possession. This made me very upset. My husband had a similar idea as his mother and I didn't know how life could continue like that. But I also knew there was no other choice since he was so ill.
To cure my husband’s illness, we tried all kinds of treatments. After several months, my husband’s situation deteriorated and he could not take care of himself at all. He was only 170 cm (5 ft 6 in), but he weighed 100 kilograms (or 220 pounds). All our money was spent on medical treatment.
We heard about a famous Chinese medicine doctor in Changchun City, Jilin Province. Since my husband was only 32, we wanted to give it a try, but we had no money left. Before that, we had borrowed 5,000 yuan from my cousin. We had not paid it back yet and she did not want to lend us more.
My sister gave me 5,000 yuan and I took my husband to Changchun, where we stayed for over 20 days. There was some progress, but the medicine damaged his stomach. Then my husband had to take both stomach medicine and medication for femoral head necrosis. Upon returning home, his stomach ached so much that he stopped the treatment.
Looking at the herbal medicine that cost 5,000 yuan, I did not want to waste the money, so I took all of it. I was also in a miserable condition with fatigue and pain all over. In fact, I could not lift something that weighed 5 kilograms (or 11 pounds). After getting back home, I spent more than 1,000 yuan for some other medicines for my husband. But they did not help, and his condition worsened. Since neither of us had income, my friend found a job for me. After I went there for one day, my husband begged me not to go there again. “Please stay at home since I cannot take care of myself at all,” he said. “We can file for divorce after the New Year. Just give me a few months.”
Looking back on those days, my heart still aches because it was so difficult. People around me also criticized me, “Why don’t you go to work? How could you make a living with both of you staying at home?”
Seeing me suffering so much, my sister said to me, “Your husband has also tried all kinds of medicines and they did not work. There is only one way left.”
“What is it?” I asked.
“Our aunt used to have liver disease, with a swollen abdomen,” she replied. “After she practiced Falun Dafa, all her illnesses went away.”
Because of the persecution, I dared not try it.
“You don’t have other options. At least you can practice it at home,” said my sister.
“But the [Chinese Communist Party (CCP)] government does not allow that. I need to check with my family,” I replied.
When I discussed this with my husband, he agreed since there were no other options anyway.
The next day, I went to my aunt’s place and obtained a copy of Zhuan Falun, and read it. Before that, no matter how sunny the day was, my mind was also gray since there was no hope. When reading the second page of the book, my heart lit up. “This book is what I need and I want to be a cultivator,” I thought. On that day, I became a Falun Dafa practitioner.
At that time, we had all kinds of medications in our home. I discarded all of them since we no longer needed them. I also got rid of things with spirit possession. I was so happy since I knew Master Li (founder of Falun Dafa) is the master I needed to follow and I did not need to worry about other things. I studied Dafa teachings and did the exercises every day. My husband practiced it for one month and stopped. He said he could not stop drinking and smoking. I did not force him. Nonetheless, he was gradually able to take care of himself in two months.
I also began to work, which was very labor intensive. One day, I suddenly realized that somehow I had no pain or discomfort anymore. Before that I often felt numb in half of my body. I also had headaches that would last one or two months. My neck problem also left me with no strength. Due to frozen shoulder, I could not lift things or raise my arm. My heart was not good either. Had I not practiced Falun Dafa, a person like me could not live past 40. Right now, I no longer worried about my health, but my illnesses were miraculously gone. I was very thankful to Master.
During those days, almost all my relatives encouraged me to divorce. “How could you live with a husband like this? Go find someone who can help you.”
“I cannot abandon him like that,” I replied. “Whether I make more money or less money, at least I can take care of him.”
From the mind and body improvement I had, relatives and friends all witnessed the greatness of Dafa.
My husband had a physical examination in 2019 and my niece went with him. Looking at the images taken, the doctor said to my niece, “This person is paralyzed and should have been in a wheelchair already.”
“No, my uncle is very healthy and he can even drive a car,” replied my niece.
The doctor could not understand this. As practitioners, we know all these are blessings of Falun Dafa.
When neighbors and relatives came to visit us, they were surprised this house was so neat. As my husband is so ill, they thought our home would be very messy. Thinking about all this, I am so grateful to Master Li. Without Dafa, my home would have been broken already. It is Dafa that gave my husband and me a new life.
Relationship with My Mother-in-law
When first beginning to practice, I could not tolerate my mother-in-law mistreating me. I complained to my husband and he did not agree with me. We argued with each other. After a while, I realized that I’m a practitioner now and I should follow the principles of Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance. As a result, I went to a room, cried for a while, and let it go. If this happened in the past, I would continue fighting till he sided with me.
My work was demanding and I had to work nearly 12 hours a day. One day I was very tired and asked my husband to do the dishes after a meal.
“I won’t,” he replied. “You need to do this as long as you are alive.” Thinking about the principles of Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance, I took care of it while crying. After all, I am a Dafa practitioner.
A year and a half passed and I was no longer upset no matter what happened. At that time, my husband could not work. One day after a long day of work, I spent four hours clearing the snow.
“You cannot work like this,” one neighbor said. “If you break down, who can help you?”
I thanked her and thought, “I have Dafa and Master Li will take care of me.”
When feeling tired, I would think: “I am a person heading toward divinity and I should not be tired.” Then everything went well.
By treating my family members with consideration and selflessness, I improved the relationship with my mother-in-law. Before I began to practice Dafa, none of us wanted to talk to each other. Not long after I started cultivation, she said to me. “You are like a different person now.” Basically, I tried everything I could to help her and stopped arguing with her. Her side of the family all changed their negative opinions about me.
Whenever my mother-in-law quarreled with her daughter Ying, they would ask me to settle it. Later my mother-in-law was diagnosed with cancer, but Ying said she had lower back pain and could not care for her. During those two months when my mother-in-law was bedridden, I went there to help take care of her almost every day. Whenever noticing them missing anything, I would buy it for her. My mother-in-law’s other son Wei did not buy anything and even took what I bought for his mother to his own home.
Ying could not take it and shouted at me one day, “Why are you so silly and buy everything?!”
“You don’t need to do this. Wei needs to do his part buying things too,” my mother-in-law continued.
I explained to them that it was not a big deal and continued to buy things as usual.
Once I was busy and did not visit my mother-in-law for two days. When I went there again, my aunt said, “Could you cook something for us? What Ying prepared was hard to chew. Neither your mother-in-law nor I could eat it.”
Knowing both of them had lost teeth, I asked Ying if she could cook soft food next time. But Ying dismissed it.
“I know they like to eat things that are soft. But why do I have to cook that way if I don’t like it?” she said.
In the past, Ying treated her mother well. But after she was bedridden, Ying totally changed.
“I did not know you would treat me so well,” my mother-in-law said to me two days before she died.
“You did really well,” said Wei.
Because the CCP suppressed innocent Falun Dafa practitioners, I often encouraged people to quit their Party memberships. My mother-in-law was very supportive. She often said to people, “Please listen to my daughter-in-law [me]. She is the best.”
One aunt always looked down upon me. After my mother-in-law died, this aunt said my mother-in-law had some money in Ying’s place. I said I am a Dafa practitioner and I would not fight for that. From this, this aunt trusted me and said Dafa is very good.
Two months before I began to practice Dafa, I nearly collapsed because of my husband’s illness. My mother-in-law did not help and said to neighbors, “My son is ill. If she [me] dares to divorce him, we will sue her.” I could not take it any longer and went to a fortune-teller. The fortune-teller said I was paying back what I owed to them from previous lives. “But don’t worry. Your fate will change in two months,” he said. Two months later, I began to practice Dafa.
Since then, my husband often recited the phrases “Falun Dafa is good” and “Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is good.” One and half a years later, he went back to work. He never needed to take medicine again. Even during the pandemic, he was not worried because he knew Master would help us. His income is higher than his peers although he does not need to work long hours.
Once again, I want to thank Master Li for all these miracles.
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