(Minghui.org) Three generations of my family have been living under the same roof, but conflicts occurred more often after my daughter-in-law moved in with us.
Although I had been practicing Falun Dafa for over a decade, I didn’t really know how to cultivate, thus I had a hard time passing many tests, and sometimes I even behaved like a non-practitioner. Consequently, my daughter-in-law quit practicing Dafa shortly after she learned it.
My son bought a house and moved out with his family. I realized my behavior prevented family members from becoming practitioners, something I regret on my cultivation path.
I asked Master Li, the founder of Falun Dafa, to give me another opportunity. I wanted to have strong righteous thoughts so that I could resolve our family conflicts, assimilate to Dafa, and repair the damage I had caused.
I searched inward and found attachments that stemmed from being headstrong, competitive, argumentative, and unkind. I couldn’t let go of “self”, didn’t treat people well, and ended up following the old forces’ arrangements.
I sent righteous thoughts to my son’s family every day at a set time, and added a thought, “Completely negate the old forces’ arrangements that destroy sentient beings. Eliminate all the bad elements that are preventing my family from returning to Dafa. Master please help me.”
I continued to send righteous thoughts to my son’s family for two years. My son and daughter-in-law, who hadn’t visited for several years, came over with my grandson during one Chinese New Year. I sincerely apologized to her during dinner, “I didn’t follow Master’s teachings and failed to cultivate. I’m sorry. please forgive me. I will change the way I do things.”
I said it from the bottom of my heart with tears in my eyes. My son and daughter-in-law raised their cups and thanked their parents for nurturing them. I got emotional while holding my daughter-in-law’s hands.
My son and his family returned to Dafa during the pandemic in 2020, and I thanked Master for bringing them back.
Although my daughter-in-law resumed the practice, my xinxing tests kept coming. Her resentment toward me wasn’t completely gone, so I used this opportunity to cultivate my heart and improve myself.
I memorized Dafa books every day. I have recited Zhuan Falun more than ten times. I made sure my thoughts were on the Fa, and looked inward when encountering problems. I cultivated bit by bit, tried my best to do the three things well, and talked to people about Falun Dafa and the persecution.
I kept Master’s teachings in mind, remained unmoved when facing troubles, and weighed everything with the Fa principles.
My daughter-in-law came home one day, and rushed to the closet, opened the door, and yelled at me, “You’re closet is so empty! You put everything in my son’s closet.” She took out the bedding and clothes from her son’s closet and threw them into mine, filling up my closet and making a big mess. I remained calm and silent despite her yelling. She quietened down shortly after.
On one occasion, my son didn’t tell me they were coming home, so I hadn’t prepared any food. My daughter-in-law went to sleep after she did the morning exercises.
It was almost noon by the time I was done with Fa study. I asked my daughter-in-law, who was still in bed, if she wanted me to prepare her lunch. Her only reply was that I interrupted her sleep.
I didn’t mind her complaint and called my son to ask what his wife liked to eat. I cooked the meal, and my daughter-in-law ate it after waking up. She seemed to have enjoyed it, so I asked if she liked it. She complained that one dish was too salty and the other was too bland. I said I would pay more attention next time. I felt good knowing that I had made progress in my cultivation.
I’ve encountered many trials, big and small. They were lessons I had to learn and tests I had to pass. As I improved, my daughter-in-law went through changes too.
She is now cultivating diligently, and said it was a pity she left Dafa for 10 years. If it were not for Master’s compassion and Dafa’s mighty power, the gap between us would have been larger.
Thank you Master!
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