(Minghui.org) I’ve practiced Falun Dafa for over 20 years, thanks to Master Li’s (Falun Dafa’s founder) benevolent protection. Sometimes my xinxing is good, but other times I’ve been slow in eliminating my attachments.
I’m a retiree, so I rarely interact with others. Most of the conflicts I experience take place at home – with my family. Other than going out to talk to people about Falun Dafa and the persecution, I stay home and read the Falun Dafa books.
My wife is not a practitioner, but she respects Master Li. Her sincere respect for Master brought her many blessings and good health. Her former employer offers physical examinations for retirees each year, and when she’s examined her health is good.
My wife likes to nag. There’s endless housework and I take care of many things. Sometimes I’m a little slow, or if I don’t do something well enough, she loses her temper and complains. Other times she reprimands me for no reason.
Although I tried my best, she berated me. I felt wronged and resentful. I forgot I was a practitioner and argued with her. I even said things that were not nice, which upset her even more.
I measured myself with the Fa principles afterward, and found many attachments. I’m competitive, like to argue, feel wronged, I’m jealous, like to complain, and want to save face. I didn’t put myself in my wife’s shoes and only thought of myself.
Master said,
“Naturally, you won’t be forewarned when challenges or tensions are coming your way. Little spiritual growth would be possible if everything were disclosed to you, and those events wouldn’t serve their purpose.” (The Fourth Talk, Zhuan Falun)
Master’s words were like a “wake up stick.” Arguing and quarreling with my wife seemed trivial on the surface, but it was directly related to a practitioner’s xinxing issue, a non-practitioner’s perception of Dafa, and a practitioner’s faith in Master and Dafa.
I started to memorize the Fa after talking to practitioners. Afterwards, when I had conflicts with others, especially my wife, I remained calm. No matter how much she complained or nagged, I didn’t argue or get angry.
Her attitude gradually changed. She doesn’t get upset when I do the exercises, and is even supportive of it. She picks up discarded Falun Dafa materials in our neighborhood, and brings them to me or hands them out to others.
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