(Minghui.org) I am 73 years old and was lucky to come across Falun Dafa in January 1999. I used to suffer from many health problems. Less than a month after practicing Dafa, I had recovered from all of them without any form of treatment.
I Stopped Resenting My Mother-In-Law
My mother-in-law was the wife of a government official. She is very pretty, looks very young. and is charismatic. When my husband and I got married, my mother-in-law was only 43. She had a hot temper and was self-centered, so there were always fights in the family. She would fight with her husband (my father-in-law) or her mother, not to mention me. When that happened, she would grab whatever was handy and use it as a weapon. I remember one time, if her husband hadn’t dodged quickly, he would have been hit in the head with a large bowl.
I was born in the countryside and had had so little education I could have been considered illiterate. In comparison, my brother-in-law’s wife was a college student. For this reason, my mother-in-law really looked down on me and was particularly rude to me. I had no share of anything good and had to do all the housework. For example, she made clothes for my sister-in-law and brother-in-law and gave them things, but there was nothing for me. I was just a punching bag at home, a free babysitter.
My mother-in-law worked at a university and had winter and summer vacations. When I was pregnant, I was busy with the household chores and had to cook three meals a day. But she rested on the recliner reading novels and refused to help me. My husband attended school elsewhere and also worked. When he was in school, I was afraid of disturbing his studies, so I never complained to him. I just kept sulking and made myself sick.
One summer day at noon, my sister-in-law turned her back to me, maybe because she didn’t like what I’d cooked for us to eat. When I spoke to her, she ignored me so I thought maybe she didn’t hear me, but we didn’t talk for several days. When my father-in-law found out, he asked me what was going on. I said I didn’t know why, but she ignored me when I talked to her. After my father-in-law asked her why she ignored me when I spoke to her, she got angry, and that made my mother-in-law angry at me when she found out about it. I was at work and didn’t know about all this.
As soon as I got home after work, my mother-in-law, who had been waiting for me, was standing in the doorway. I remember clearly that she was wearing a pair of shorts and a vest. She had one hand on her waist as she pointed a finger at my nose, yelling, “Get out of here! This is my home!” I was frightened by this sudden attack and didn’t know what had happened, so I left, crying. Then my grandma (my mother-in-law’s mother) chased after me, saying, “Don’t you know your mother’s temper? She treats me like that, too, not just you. Don’t be like her. Go home. What will happen to your child if you leave?”
My child needed to be breastfed—I hadn’t fed my child for half a day. I cried a lot outside but realized I had to go home for the sake of my child. When I got home, my mother-in-law didn’t give up. She vented her anger at me again.
Things like this happened so many times. I developed a strong resentment for my mother-in-law and often expressed my resentment for her in front of my husband. He knew that I had suffered a lot of grievances and also knew his mother’s temper, but he could only sympathize with me secretly and could not say a word.
After I started to study the Fa, the resentment in my heart, that was as hard as ice, melted. My resentment for my mother-in-law was gone, and instead I felt sorry for her. I thought it was incredible. If I hadn’t practiced Dafa, I would have resented her for the rest of my life. I thought that maybe I owed her from a previous life, and I was just paying off the debt. If I didn’t owe her, then she had given me so much virtue over the years. Wasn’t that a great thing? I really needed to thank her.
My Mother-In-Law’s Awakening
My mother-in-law was deeply poisoned by the Chinese Communist Party’s (CCP) lies and propaganda. She had always opposed Dafa and my cultivation. She refused to listen to or read the truth-clarification materials and even said some unpleasant things. I thought it might be because I had not done well enough to influence her, so I was strict about following the xinxing requirements of a cultivator, cared for her in every way, respected her, and showed her the beauty of Dafa.
My mother-in-law is now 91 years old and in good health. In early November last year, she had a nasty fall and has been bedridden for a year. Both of her sons have passed away, and her daughter is overseas. My younger brother-in-law’s wife and my mother-in-law do not get along. After my father-in-law passed away, my younger brother-in-law’s family almost stopped interacting with her, especially after my younger brother-in-law passed away, his wife no longer paid attention to her. I am a cultivator and cannot do that. I regard serving my mother-in-law as an opportunity to improve my xinxing. I do my best and face it with a smile. I cook whatever she wants to eat and I never let her suffer any grievances.
She saw the beauty of Dafa in me. To be honest, if I hadn’t practiced Dafa, I wouldn’t have treated her like this. Maybe I would have ignored her like my younger brother-in-law’s wife did, or maybe I would have taken her to a nursing home. Now she has gone from opposing my practice to actively asking me to practice. One day she told me that she also wanted to practice Falun Dafa. I said, “Sure, when your leg is healed, I will teach you. You should read the Falun Dafa book Zhuan Falun first.”
My mother-in-law is now reading Zhuan Falun for the fourth time and is also willing to read the truth-clarification brochures. One day, when I helped her get out of bed, she suddenly said from the bottom of her heart, “Falun Dafa is really good.” Now, she completely agrees that the CCP is evil and has withdrawn from the Youth League and Youth Pioneers (CCP organizations that she once joined). She said, “I think the CCP is about to end. You should withdraw all the money from the bank. Once it is over, it won’t let us withdraw money.”
Another day, she praised me as being better than her own daughter and thanked me. I said, “You don’t need to thank me. Thank Master Li. It is Master who taught me to do this. If I hadn’t practiced Dafa, I would not treat you like this. You know that I resented you a lot in the past.”
She immediately put her hands in front of her chest, and said, “Thank you, Master!”
I continued to clarify the truth to her and persuaded her to write a solemn statement. I had tried to persuade her to write it several times before, but she never agreed. This time she did. I gave her the solemn statement I had written in advance. After reading it carefully, she signed her name without hesitation. The solemn statement has now been posted on the Minghui website. I’m so happy for her.
Of course, what I have done is not enough. I am still far from the requirements of Dafa. There are still many attachments that have not been eliminated. I will continue to work hard, constantly improve my xinxing, keep up with the process of Fa-rectification, and return to my true self with Master.
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