(Minghui.org) I’ve been practicing Falun Dafa for over 18 years. Through my unwavering daily Fa study and my cultivation, I’ve gradually realized that as long as I melt into the Fa and assimilate to Dafa, the beauty, power, and transcendence of Dafa will manifest in every aspect of my life. Sentient beings, upon witnessing the wonderful manifestations of Dafa practitioners, will accept the truth about Dafa and be saved. In order for me to melt into the Fa and assimilate to Dafa, I understand I must discard the complex and entangled human emotions and attachments, maintain a simple and pure mindset, and act in accordance with Dafa.
I am writing this article to report to Master and share with fellow practitioners about my cultivation journey of melting into the Fa, transforming my distorted notions, and fostering a harmonious and warm family.
I grew up pampered and coddled by my parents and siblings, developing a self-centered arrogance and dominance. My undergraduate degree and teaching profession only reinforced my stubborn self-righteousness.
My husband, also a Dafa practitioner, suffered from meningitis as a child, leaving him with intellectual disabilities and epilepsy. He began to work after graduating from middle school. As the only boy in the family, he was pampered and had limited ability to handle ordinary life matters, often acting without thinking. I always looked at his behavior and deeply despised him, and I often criticized and reprimanded him for his thoughtless actions. He never uttered a word in response to my criticisms. His uncommunicative nature often left me feeling suffocated and depressed. I was exhausted and felt that life was a bitter experience.
After I began to practicie Falun Dafa, I realized that the relationships between people are fostered by fate and result from their karma. Becoming husband and wife in this life is such a great fate, and I must cherish it. Following the Fa allowed me to look inward instead of at my husband. I found contempt, arrogance, resentment, jealousy, and other attachments that led to my disdain of my husband, and I resolved to eliminate them through cultivation.
While I understood the Fa principles, practicing them was not easy when I had to treat my husband’s thoughtless behaviors with kindness. For example, when he boiled an egg, he would fill the pot half full of water. In winter, it would take half an hour to boil, so it would take 40 to 50 minutes or even longer to cook the egg. I repeatedly told him to use less water, so the egg would be boiled in a few minutes, but he never changed. Whenever he cooked eggs, my resentment arose. Even after practicing Dafa for a long time, I still felt this reaction. Although the reaction was weakened, it was not completely eliminated.
In the second half of 2023, our child went overseas, giving me more time and energy to focus on my cultivation and doing the three things with my husband. I reminded myself to be simple and pure, to act according to Dafa’s requirements—to cultivate diligently, and let go of anything else.
One day, through Fa study, I realized that the life components of each person at the microscopic level are specific and unique, each with their own unique personality. Being introverted and taciturn is also a part of one’s personality. My husband’s low intelligence and epilepsy were the result of karma accumulated over lifetimes. Only through sincere cultivation, improving his xinxing, eliminating karma, and returning to his innate nature could he fundamentally change. How could I change him with the experiences and notions I had formed among ordinary people?
I realized that all my previous thoughts and behaviors toward my husband were expressions of selfishness and self-imposition. At that moment, the contempt, arrogance, resentment, jealousy, and other tainted attachments hidden within my dimensional field instantly disintegrated and vanished. I realized the meaning of “The Fa can break all attachments...” (“Drive Out Interference” in The Essentials of Diligent Progress II) and I felt infinite gratitude towards Master and Dafa!
After that, whenever I saw my husband boiling an egg in a pot half full of water, I felt a sense of inner peace and tranquility. I no longer had any notion about how much water to use. I transcended the ordinary world’s shackles of right and wrong, good and bad, and let go of human rationality. My compassion emerged. From then on, when I viewed anyone or anything that didn’t conform to my own notions and understandings, I would understand and tolerate them from a different perspective. I constantly reminded myself that I must follow the Fa rather than use human reasoning. I must never presume to judge others based on my own notions, let alone act like a teacher and impose my own opinions on others. Doing so would only create karma.
I shifted my focus from looking at my husband’s behavior to looking my own heart, eliminating any thoughts that were not in line with the Fa. I shifted from criticizing and complaining about his actions to accepting and forgiving him. I encouraged him to have and express his own thoughts. I invited other practitioners to join our Fa-study group and took my husband to other practitioners’ homes to study the Fa, helping my husband improve in the Fa. I also assisted him in going out and collaborating with other practitioners to clarify the truth face-to-face and help Master save people.
My introverted and uncommunicative husband has little by little become optimistic and cheerful. He used to barely say a word at home all day, but now he talks and laughs. Before, when other practitioners came to our home, he’d just say hello and go to another room, never interacting or discussing things with them. Now, he sits with them, chatting and discussing things. He said he used to be afraid of interacting with people, but now that’s no longer an obstacle. When he first started working with other practitioners to clarify the truth, he was afraid of meeting people, but now that attachment to saving face has vanished. He feels that Master has helped him remove many negative things and opened his wisdom. He now also does household chores, such as changing bedding, arranging clothes, cleaning, and cooking delicious meals.
By doing things simply and purely according to the Fa’s standards, I gradually returned to my innate nature and developed the qualities a woman should possess, such as humility, virtue, gentleness, and restraint. I believe in Master and the Fa, and help my husband improve through the Fa, rather than trying to force him to change. Our home has become harmonious and warm.
I’m thankful that Master awakened me through the Fa. Otherwise, I don’t know how much further I would have continued on the path of creating karma. If I had continued in that stubborn, unrepentant state, how could I have saved the sentient beings in heaven who place infinite hope in me?
In today’s society, men and women no longer experience the happiness of marriage and the warmth of family, and divorce is widespread. There are also Dafa practitioners whose family environments haven’t been straightened out yet, and whose non-practitioner family members still misunderstand Dafa, and therefore haven’t been saved by Dafa.
If practitioners facing family tribulations can correct their own deviant behaviors, truly cultivate themselves according to the standards of the Fa, and rectify thoughts and actions that do not accord with the Fa, then our beautiful manifestation among ordinary people will reflect the truth about Dafa. Our families, as well as even more people and sentient beings, will be saved by Dafa. This is what Master wants, what sentient beings yearn for, and how we fulfill our vows. In this way, we are walking the divine path arranged by Master, bathed in Master’s immense grace, and experiencing immense happiness and joy.
If there is anything here that is not in line with the Fa, I hope fellow practitioners will kindly point it out.
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