(Minghui.org) Greetings everyone! I began practicing Falun Dafa in 2011, and I’d like to tell you about my cultivation experiences.
I married into a farming family. My father-in-law and husband worked, so my mother-in-law and I handled the daily farm chores. My mother-in-law was a stern person, and constantly barked orders: “Hurry up and do this! Hurry up and do that!” I followed her instructions and toiled in the fields. But she was never satisfied and angrily exclaimed, “That’s not enough!”
Whenever I felt overwhelmed and confided in my husband, he coldly replied, “Take care of it yourself!” He never listened to my complaints. Thus, I toiled year-round in despair. In the sweltering heat of midsummer, I mowed the lawn. When the heat became unbearable, I turned off the engine for a short break. My mother-in-law suddenly appeared and said, “You’ve only been mowing for a short while, and you’re already stopping to rest? How can you possibly finish? You haven’t finished mowing this side or that side!”
My husband continued to ignore my feelings. My mother was repeatedly hospitalized for rheumatism. I didn’t want to cause her any worry, so I didn’t tell her about my situation. I gradually began to resent my husband. Every time something happened, my resentment grew stronger. Resentment and hatred intertwined, and the thought of “revenge someday” grew stronger and stronger, finally reaching an unbearable intensity. I often wondered: Why do I have to endure such harsh treatment in this family? My body and mind were already ravaged by the stress.
I See a Beautiful Falun
I gazed at the western sky one evening and admired the beautiful sunset. I suddenly saw many beautiful, round floating objects. They danced lightly, appearing one after another. I wondered, “What are they?” I blurted out, “Wow, it’s beautiful!” My father-in-law, next to me, responded, “Yes, today’s sunset is really beautiful.” I thought to myself, “Huh? It’s not the sunset, it’s that round, beautiful thing! Can’t you see them? It seems like the people walking on the street didn’t see it either. Am I the only one who could see them?”
I felt happy watching the scene. After I started practicing Dafa, I realized that those beautiful, round objects were Falun (law wheels). It turns out that Master already began encouraging me.
I Started Practicing Falun Dafa
In 2011, a friend introduced me to Falun Dafa. At the time, I was physically and mentally devastated, suffering from illness and having just undergone two open abdominal surgeries. Six months later, I was finally able to visit a practice site where I read the precious book Zhuan Falun. It explained many things I never understood. Since then, I have persisted in studying the Fa and practicing the exercises. I previously sought medical treatment for reflux esophagitis, but my symptoms disappeared without a trace, and I stopped taking medications and health supplements. I realized that I had been obsessed with relying on health supplements, and I finally let go of that attachment.
Attending a Fa Conference in New York
Several practitioners and I attended a Falun Dafa conference in New York in 2015. I was extremely excited when I saw Master for the first time.
Master said in answering questions,
“I think the situations in Japan and Korea provide a sharp contrast. Local Korean Dafa disciples are the driving force there, so when you look at the situation there and the strength they have in terms of saving people, things are solid, and they are really making a difference in society. In Japan, Chinese Dafa disciples are the driving force. There are a lot of people in Japan who are supposed to obtain the Fa, so make sure you don’t do things that deter them. I have noticed this situation, but each region has its own challenges.” (“Fa Teaching Given at the 2015 New York Fa Conference,” Collected Fa Teachings, Vol. XIII)
Hearing Master’s teaching, I thought: Previously, I was content with just studying the Fa and practicing the exercises. I need to be more proactive in telling Japanese people about Dafa. However, I couldn’t find an opportunity to do anything, and when I talked with the other practitioners, I was too timid to express my thoughts.
Participating in a Project
In 2017, a practitioner invited me, despite my inexperience, to participate in a project. I believed this was Master’s compassionate arrangement. I had the opportunity to read numerous practitioners’ cultivation experiences. By comparing them with my own, I was deeply moved and benefited greatly, and my cultivation improved. However, conflicts sometimes arose within the project. One practitioner offered guidance on a task I was doing, saying, “I think this is the right way to do it.” I was deeply dissatisfied. What kind of attachment was this? I searched within myself repeatedly, but I couldn’t find the answer. I read the following Fa one day.
Master said,
“You are all fellow practitioners. Do you think you’re enemies? You are here on this earth working toward the same goal of saving people, so you should be the closest of kin and be helping one another. Do you find someone annoying? That person’s outward appearance and behavior are only what’s present here in this human world. Weren’t all of you originally divine? I don’t think your divine side would possibly find someone annoying. You need to view things as a cultivator.” (“Fa Teaching Given at the New York Fa Conference Celebrating the 25th Anniversary of Dafa’s Spreading,” Collected Fa Teachings, Vol. XIV)
I suddenly realized: That person wasn’t an enemy; he’s a fellow practitioner with the same goal as me! I let go of the bad thought, “I’m actually doing better than him,” and realized that I was able to participate in this project because Master opened my wisdom.
Revelation from a Signature Collection Event
Local practitioners held a signature collection event in a park. I realized something crucial: I saw the deep resentment I harbored toward my husband. I realized that collecting signatures calling for an end to the persecution with such a negative heart wouldn’t move people. I realized I had to eliminate that resentment first.
But how could I eliminate this resentment?
My husband retired before he was even 60, and our farmland was converted into a parking lot, leaving him idle all day. I worked at a supermarket. I was in my 60s, so I considered quitting. When I told him I planned to quit, he said, “Oh, since you’re quitting, there’s a new supermarket nearby—you might as well go work there!” I was surprised by his words, but as a cultivator, I didn’t argue.
Insights from Fa Study
I wondered why my husband said that. I had already decided to resign due to my advanced age, and not only had he resigned early, but he also wanted me to continue working. Why did I marry such a man?
While studying the Fa that evening, I suddenly realized that my husband existed solely to facilitate my cultivation. Thinking of this, tears welled up in my eyes. I said to my husband in my heart, “Thank you, thank you! I’m sorry. I used to resent you, but I’ll stop.”
The Process of Eliminating Resentment
Now that I no longer harbored resentment, I resolved to change my view of my husband and completely reverse all my past behavior. However, those deeply ingrained notions and habits proved difficult to dispel. I resolved to gradually remove them.
Even though I can’t smile at my husband, I still say a sincere “Good morning” to him. I observe his expression, consider his needs, and proactively greet him every day. I used to often tell him, “You’re wrong. You should do this!” Now I realize this is a bad mindset, and I’m gradually removing it, changing it to, “You’re right.” I used to criticize him because he refused to do any farm work, but now my compassion is gradually emerging, and I say, “I’ll do it.”
My husband gradually became more cheerful, his complexion fairer than before. Seeing him like this, I also felt lighter. Finally, we could have genuine conversations and laugh heartily. I discarded the mindset of “It’s all my husband’s fault! He’s the cause of the gloomy atmosphere in our family. Everything is my husband’s fault!” I read in Zhuan Falun, “The entire cultivation process for a cultivator is one of constantly giving up human attachments.” (Lecture One, Zhuan Falun) I realized that my efforts hadn’t been enough. So I gradually eliminated my attachments, and I was finally able to eliminate my resentment towards my husband. My heart is filled with gratitude for Master.
After returning from the New York Fa Conference ten years ago, I often felt like sharing this small story about my family would make people laugh, so I didn’t dare speak up in front of other practitioners. But now, I’ve let go of that attachment and adopted a mindset of “I’m okay with being laughed at.” I finally feel comfortable speaking freely. I’ve let go of many attachments, and I continue to grow. In this final period of Fa-rectification, I vow to continue diligently cultivating, doing the three things, and telling people about Falun Dafa.
Thank you, Master! Thank you, fellow practitioners!
(Selected article presented at the 2025 Japan Fa conference)
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