(Minghui.org) I’m 52 years old and I’ve practiced Falun Dafa for over a decade. Whenever I face challenges, if I align my thoughts with the Fa, the difficulties become light and the experience can even be joyful. But when I don’t pay attention to my xinxing and give in to human attachments, everything feels heavy and exhausting. I’d like to tell you how I cultivated and improved myself through a painful period in my marriage.
I Begin Practicing Falun Dafa
My third sister told me about Falun Dafa. She spoke of its profound beauty and ability to resolve illness. Inspired by her experience, I began practicing. Sadly, she couldn’t overcome a major karmic tribulation and passed away. My husband started to oppose my practice due to her death and because he was afraid—the Chinese Communist Party (CCP) persecutes practitioners. My family also refused to support my practice.
Before I began practicing, my husband and I often argued, and each fight left me seething with anger. After I started practicing, the arguments continued, but I began striving to remain calm. During one heated argument, my husband asked several of my relatives to come to our home and pressure me into giving up Falun Dafa. I wanted to speak up, but my mouth felt sealed shut. I believe it was Master’s compassion that held me back, preventing me from creating karma through harsh words.
Facing a Marriage Tribulation
Because I refused to give up cultivation, my husband left to work in another city, saying he needed to get away from me. I stayed home with our two young children. During his time away, he had an affair. When he returned months later, he was restless and often wanted to go out to see the other woman.
On my mother-in-law’s birthday, I visited her after getting off work. Several relatives and a woman I had not met, were at her home. To my surprise, my husband was helping in the kitchen, which was something he never did before. The woman was cooking, and my husband told everyone to eat whatever was made and to not be picky. I was stunned because he had always been critical of my cooking. Was this really the same man?
During dinner, their casual conversation revealed that the woman was the one having an affair with my husband. I said nothing and quietly left. I didn’t know how to face the situation, so I buried myself in work. I felt uncertain about my future, and my hair began turning gray because of the betrayal. I couldn’t calm my mind to study the Fa. My thoughts were consumed by the injustice. Life became dark and heavy, and I struggled to find the strength to carry on.
Finding Light Through the Fa
I discussed my marriage situation with an elderly practitioner. She encouraged me not to worry about my husband. Each time we spoke, I felt a little better. Looking back, I’m deeply grateful for her support during this difficult time. I immersed myself in Fa study and began to uncover my attachments: resentment, jealousy, lust, pride, dependence, selfishness, grievance, fear, desire for reward, longing for kindness from others, and lingering affection for my husband. I sent righteous thoughts to eliminate these impurities and asked Master for help to remove them.
Reading articles by fellow practitioners also gave me strength. I remembered that a practitioner discovered photos of her husband’s affair but remained unmoved, as if nothing had happened. Her sharing inspired me to let go and strive not to be moved. One day, the woman involved in the affair with my husband called me. I spoke to her gently, encouraging her to find another suitable partner and not destroy my marriage. Unfortunately, I wasn’t able to clarify the truth about the persecution to her or help her understand the broader truths about how the CCP lies and persecutes people.
Letting Go and Moving Forward
The woman eventually left. My husband wept and wanted to find her. As he left, I thought that they already made their choice, so I hoped they would have a good life together. I sent him a text message to wish them well. After that, I felt immense relief as if a heavy burden had been lifted.
Things began to change after I let go. My husband returned home that night and said he wasn’t leaving. I knew that once I truly let go, Master’s arrangements would unfold in the best possible way.
I thought that I must have hurt my husband in a past life. Without Dafa’s guidance to follow the principles of Truthfulness, Compassion, and Forbearance, and without Master’s compassionate care, I would never have overcome the marriage tribulation and kept our family together.
Today, my husband is cheerful and responsible, and my family lives in harmony. Our children have grown into kind, sensible adults with stable jobs. I often remind them to recite, “Falun Dafa is good. Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is good.”
I feel deeply blessed to be a Falun Dafa practitioner, a being envied by all gods in the universe. As Master said in “Settling the Great Havoc” (Hong Yin II) that, “Dafa settles everything from the origin...” As I write this, tears fill my eyes, which are thankful tears for Master’s care. I know everything I have is from Master’s boundless compassion and is bestowed by Dafa. I bow to Master in heartfelt gratitude.
My understanding is limited, so please correct me if anything I’ve shared deviates from the Fa.
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