(Minghui.org) After I began practicing Falun Dafa in 1996, my body and mind were transformed and I felt reborn.
I was considered an “older single,” and an acquaintance introduced me to another “older single.” I had no money, I lived alone, and I rented a place. The Chinese Communist Party (CCP) persecution of Falun Dafa was severe, and I was under a lot of psychological pressure. I hoped to find someone who could understand and accept my practice. My husband was the only candidate, and we married.
Since my in-laws did not arrange a wedding and we had no money, we spent 85 yuan to have a few dishes delivered from a restaurant. There were no drinks. It was just the two of us eating a rather lonely and somewhat depressing meal. That was our “wedding banquet.”
Unexpectedly, after we got married, my husband was very cold toward me. He rarely spoke or smiled. The suffering I endured was like the old saying, “A mute eating bitter herbs”—I couldn’t express my pain. By the time we’d been married for 10 years, only three friends knew about my situation. They were very sympathetic—two of them even cried over how much I suffered.
Six months after we married, my mother-in-law asked me, “Why aren’t you pregnant yet?” When I told her the truth, she was shocked and stunned, then cautiously asked, “Would you divorce my son because of this?” I replied, “I practice Falun Dafa. I will not divorce your son.”
When my mother-in-law learned that we did not have a real marital relationship, she became very guarded toward me and even encouraged my husband to be suspicious of me.
My own mother passed away when I was 12, so I’d always longed for maternal love. When I was dating my husband, whenever I bought good food, I thought of his mother. I treated her like my own mother, and I always thought of her whenever I had something good to eat.
When we were first married, I had no job and our finances were tight. We didn’t even have a refrigerator or a color TV. I spent 45 yuan (a little over 200 yuan today) to buy a kitchen knife for my mother-in-law at the supermarket, even though I needed one for myself. She didn’t appreciate it and said, “You bought this with my son’s money, not yours.”
When we renovated our home, my mother-in-law gave us 10,000 yuan. I was very grateful. After we bought our first television and used it for a few days, we realized my in-laws’ TV was very small, so we gave them ours.
My mother-in-law had problems with her legs. I accompanied her to a distant place to buy fabric. No one dared to travel that far with her, so she hadn’t walked such a long distance in many years. She was very touched that I went with her.
She recited “Falun Dafa is good, Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is good,” and her legs recovered. Our relationship blossomed.
After my husband and I got busy with our business and focused on repaying our debts, we paid less attention to my mother-in-law. She began to resent us and stopped reciting “Falun Dafa is good, Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is good.”
A few years ago during the National Day holiday in early October, she complained that I didn’t buy her much and said, “Take this piece of meat back and eat it yourself.” Not realizing that she was upset, I said, “Let’s freeze it first. I’ll get it after I buy a refrigerator tomorrow.” When I went to get the meat, she became angry. The next day, she exaggerated the matter to my sister-in-law, claiming I’d made her so angry, her heart was affected and her limbs had turned cold.
My sister-in-law called my husband and scolded him. When he came home, he was furious with me. I was so upset that I only slept for two hours that night. It felt as if the 10,000 yuan my mother-in-law gave us meant we owed her everything, and she could scold us at will. I began to resent her, and I no longer visited her. After she stopped reciting “Falun Dafa is good, Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is good,” her legs began to hurt again, and she couldn’t get downstairs.
A veteran practitioner said, “You are a cultivator—how can you still hold a grudge?” This woke me up. As a practitioner, I should treat my mother-in-law kindly. Although I still felt uneasy, I cooked shrimp and brought it to her while it was still hot.
After I improved my xinxing, I bought her several summer outfits. She was very happy and resumed reciting “Falun Dafa is good, Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is good.”
As I studied the Fa more deeply, I let go of more and more human attachments. I realized that my in-laws’ behavior was helping me cultivate and improve myself.
During the COVID-19 pandemic, my father-in-law was hospitalized in intensive care with a severe lung condition and passed away. A month later, my mother-in-law was also hospitalized. I noticed she was wearing old-fashioned clothes over 40 years old. I planned to buy her a new top when she was discharged.
When it was my husband’s turn to care for her, I was late delivering food because I sent righteous thoughts. My mother-in-law felt sorry for my husband, and my husband felt sorry for her, so he scolded me. I realized I had resentment, jealousy, and unkind thoughts toward my mother-in-law.
After adjusting my mindset, when I went to deliver food again, my husband and I ate together at the hospital, and my mother-in-law smiled. When her stomach hurt, my husband massaged her abdomen, and I gently stroked her arm to comfort her. She held her son’s hand with one hand and mine with the other, placing our hands together, and said, “After I’m gone, you two must live well together.” She used to be very domineering and frequently said, “If you can stay together, stay; if not, then don’t.” It felt like the first time she showed this kind of concern for me. I was so moved that tears streamed down my face.
She was released from the hospital when her condition became terminal. When it was my husband’s turn to look after her, she wanted to sit up but he didn’t lift her. I sat cross-legged and held her up until she was tired and wanted to lie down again. She was so touched that she grasped my hands with both of hers, almost in tears. My heart was filled with sympathy, and I cried again.
Suddenly, she stared blankly, pointed at me, and said to my husband, “Why does she look different from before?” I said, “I cultivate Dafa. I’ve become kinder.” After that, she held my hands several more times to express her gratitude.
During the last month of her life, I fully demonstrated the kindness and compassion of a Falun Dafa practitioner, and her children finally acknowledged me. The karmic relationship between my mother-in-law and me in this lifetime came to a fulfilling conclusion.
Treating Leaders and Community Officials With Kindness
CCP personnel came to my home twice one year to arrest me. They sent several vehicles and around 30 police officers but did not take me away. This caused a major stir in my building as well as several nearby buildings, and I suddenly became the focus of attention. I remained calm and composed, and my neighbors looked at me with newfound respect. The attitudes of three building leaders were especially notable.
Years ago, I helped the former leader of my building withdraw from the CCP organizations. For personal gain, however, she still followed the government orders to remove Dafa informational posters from the hallways. During the CCP’s “zero-out” persecution campaign, she cooperated with the community officials and told my husband and me to sign the three statements. I visited her twice with truth-clarification booklets and audios. She finally came to fully understand the truth. With her palms pressed together, she said to me, “I now completely believe in Falun Dafa and will begin reciting ‘Falun Dafa is good, Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is good.’”
The new building leader is an elderly man who likes to read truth-clarification materials. I often give him brochures, audio recordings, and calendars with information about Falun Dafa. Other practitioners helped him and his wife quit the CCP organizations, and he has protected practitioners.
A building leader from a neighboring building greeted me and said her sisters and friends liked reading truth-clarification materials, so I gave them to her regularly. I also gave her Dafa calendars every year.
I met a community committee member by chance at a market. When she used to work in another community, she cooperated with the police to persecute practitioners. After I clarified the truth to her several times, her attitude changed greatly. Whenever she saw me, she greeted me warmly.
As more and more people learned that I practiced Falun Dafa, I paid even greater attention to my words and actions, because I wanted to present the image of a kind, upright, and positive Dafa practitioner. I hope that more people will come to know that “Falun Dafa is good, Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is good,” overcome calamities, and enjoy a bright future.
