(Minghui.org) Master’s teachings and Falun Dafa’s guidance transformed me.
After graduating from college, I secured a job in the state system. As a single person, I expected to enjoy a carefree, relaxed life, with enough money to support myself. However, I somehow ended up assuming the role of “head of the household.”
After working for a few years, I was able to buy my own home. While the house was still under renovation, my younger sister and her husband moved into the area for work, and stayed with me. Two years later, my eldest sister’s son and daughter relocated to my town to be near a kindergarten. They were accompanied by my mother. Soon after, my uncle brought my 80-year-old grandmother for me to care for. The family grew once again when my younger sister gave birth to a beautiful baby girl.
My household had grown into a family of eight. As the family members changed, so did my cultivation environment. As my own approach to cultivation evolved, my family members also underwent transformations of their own.
My Brother-in-law’s Change
My brother-in-law has always been incredibly stingy. Throughout our daily life together of almost twenty years he never spent a single penny on the household. From small items like toothpaste, toothbrushes, toilet paper, and cosmetics, to cooking staples like oil, salt, vinegar, and soy sauce, I covered the cost of everything. He has never contributed to property management fees or utility bills. My sister meanwhile, did not earn any money, as she stayed home full-time to care for their child.
At first, although I understood the Fa principles that everything a practitioner encounters is governed by karmic ties, I felt I should use this as an opportunity to elevate myself. I should regard personal gain lightly and let go of human attachments. However, I only grasped the principles superficially, without truly comprehending the inner meaning of the Fa. I felt as though my brother-in-law was taking advantage of me. I harbored intense resentment and grievances toward both my sister and her husband. At times, I even asked them to leave, but they refused, leaving me feeling conflicted and anguished.
One day, when I was studying the Fa together with fellow practitioners,. I suddenly realized what a wonderful opportunity I was facing. First, those intense hidden attachments to self-interest had been exposed, allowing me to eliminate them. Second, the transformation of my mindset and the letting go of human attachments enabled me to transcend in my cultivation level. The elimination of human attachments and the subsequent changes resulting from the elevation of my xinxing brought harmony to my family. This not only saved me but also saved my family members. It demonstrated Dafa’s immense power to transform human hearts, inspiring my family to develop a deep sense of reverence for Dafa.
I stopped complaining to my sister about how my efforts were going unrewarded, and I no longer nitpicked about their not contributing to our daily lives. I became much more composed and was able to view things from my brother-in-law’s perspective. He was the sole breadwinner, responsible for supporting his family. His situation was arduous, which was why he lived such a frugal life.
I no longer viewed my brother-in-law through a stingy lens. I bought whatever was needed in the household. I made sure they spent as little as possible whenever feasible, and I offered help wherever I could. In every situation, I put their interests first and acted with their well-being in mind.
My brother-in-law witnessed my transformation. He began to alter some of his own behaviors. Occasionally, he bought groceries or brought home some tasty treats to share with everyone. The spirit of generosity and the willingness to share with the family was deeply heartening. Our home has since been filled with far more laughter and joy.
Occasionally, while chatting with relatives, I would hear my brother-in-law offer heartfelt praise for this extended family, and express his appreciation for other family members. I know that this is the power of Falun Dafa, which transformed me and my family. I am deeply grateful to Master for his compassionate salvation.
My Nephew and Niece’s Change
My eldest sister’s household struggled with poverty. I attached particular importance to the education of her children. I frequently encouraged them, “Study! Don’t waste time. Don’t play. Devote every moment to your studies.” I felt that their only path to changing their lives and breaking the cycle of poverty was through diligent study, so I constantly urged them to be diligent.
Whenever their grades slipped, I would perform an exhaustive analysis on the possible reasons, such as sleeping too much, wasting time playing, not paying attention during classes, etc. In short, whenever things failed to meet my own standards, I criticized them. This left them feeling helpless, distressed, and under immense pressure.
The children became quite rebellious. They would sometimes shout at me, and at times, they simply tried to avoid me by locking themselves in their bedrooms. I felt helpless, and deeply hurt. I thought, “I have sacrificed so much for you. How could you treat me this way?”
I failed to recognize my strong attachments and the human sentiments that were not in accordance with the Fa. I feared that the children would perform poorly in their studies, and ultimately fail to gain admission to any colleges or make a living in the future. This conviction drove me to continually urge them to study.
Until one day, my teeth began to ache. The pain was relentless, and I couldn’t take even a single bite of food. Even breathing triggered a lingering, agonizing pain. The pain radiated across my face and head, leaving that half of my body feeling utterly miserable.
I looked inward and still could not pinpoint the source of my problem. I continued to nag the children, “Hurry up and study!” This pain persisted for months.
While studying the Fa one day, I suddenly realized that everyone has their own destiny. Their fates are already arranged and not something I can control. Everything is being arranged by Master. I saw my desire to control and arrange the destinies of others. I felt ashamed that I was unaware of this for so long.
With that thought, the toothache vanished instantly. It was truly miraculous. Dafa is truly extraordinary.
I abandoned my imposing attitude toward the children’s studies, and let go of the human attachments of worry and anxiety regarding their life paths. I rectified myself and cultivated my character in accordance with the Fa. Sometimes, when I noticed that the children were not in a right state, I communicated with them based on the Fa to help them distinguish right from wrong.
The children’s attitudes toward me gradually changed. They began to smile at me as they shared stories from school. I never imagined that simply by rectifying my incorrect understandings in accordance with the Fa, could I bring such harmony to my family. I am deeply grateful to Master for his teachings.
A Change in My Mother
My mother and I did not get along well. I found her way of speaking abrasive, while she claimed I had a terrible temper. We rarely showed any tolerance or patience toward one another.
I have long wanted to improve this state, and I spoke with my mother a few times about it. She would respond quite bluntly, “If you truly wanted to change this, how could you possibly fail to do so?”
I would become furious and lash back at her, “Then you can change! Why do you have to nitpick at me? If you cultivated, wouldn’t that simply resolve our arguments?”
This only made my mother even angrier, “Am I even your mother? What kind of daughter speaks to her own mother like that? You have absolutely no respect for your mother!” As she spoke, she even burst into tears. Over the years, neither my mother nor I managed to improve the situation.
I have always measured my mother against the “mother” standard. Judging with human notions, I felt that a mother should cherish and be tolerant of her children, unconditionally accepting their rights and wrongs without keeping score or expecting anything in return. Everything I have done toward my mother amounts to mistreatment and the creation of karma because I was anchoring myself in human sentiment. In reality, my mother and I are fellow practitioners.
After realizing this, I changed my attitude toward my mother. I began interacting with her from the perspective of a fellow practitioner, with greater humility, respect, and tolerance. I have since been able to consider her feelings from her own point of view. I was able to be considerate and caring, always looking out for her best interests.
My mother also began to quietly transform herself. She calmed down and listened to what I had to say, communicating with me with a peaceful mind. She was also able to engage in heartfelt conversations with me. She was no longer swayed by human notions or sentiment, and she began to take my needs into consideration in her actions. Our relationship grew increasingly harmonious. We improved in our cultivation together.
It was Master who guided us both back to the righteous path, correcting our course after we had drifted away from the Fa for so many years.
I belong to a large family with such diverse personalities. It was Master who brought us together through the bonds of destiny. Under Master’s compassionate care, and guided by Dafa, we are transforming ourselves, and changing for the better.
(Selected submission from in celebration of 2026 World Falun Dafa Day on Minghui.org)
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