(Minghui.org) I live in a rural area and am 64 years old. I have behaved aggressively since I was a youngster. I didn’t bully others, but I fought back if anyone bullied me. I was thus regarded as a tough woman.
However, I got rid of my bad temper and became a friendlier person after I began practicing Falun Dafa.
No Peace at Home
My husband became a village official after leaving the army. He was lazy and had many bad habits. We often quarreled when he had affairs with other women.
He once had an affair with our neighbor. When I confronted him about it, he didn’t show any remorse; instead, he began to beat me. The neighboring couple and their three sons beat me when I talked to the wife about the affair. My husband didn’t try to protect me from the attack.
Because my husband was so much stronger than me, I didn't fight back when he beat me.
Feeling very angry one night, I tied up his feet when he fell asleep. I beat him with the handle of a reaping hook. My husband kept calling for help.
Also, during this time, because I looked down on my daughter-in-law, she and I had a bad relationship. One day, I complained to my son about what my grandson was eating. My daughter-in-law became angry, grabbed a knife, and ran toward me. My son blocked her so I wasn't injured.
I argued with my relatives, neighbors, and friends all the time. I had a very bad relationship with most of the people around me, and they always became quiet whenever I approached.
I felt very bitter about my life, although I never backed-down in front of others.
I felt let down by my husband, children, and relatives. Hard work and depression led me to develop many illnesses.
In order to seek relief, I went to a temple and became a lay Buddhist. I spent a lot of money, but that didn’t change my behavior or help me feel any better; in fact, my illnesses became worse and worse. I was often bedridden and couldn’t turn over, dress myself, wash my face, or brush my teeth.
Forgiving Others and Making Amends
I was lucky to encounter Falun Dafa in 2009. There were big changes in my body and mind after I began the practice. All the illnesses disappeared and I let go of my hard feelings toward relatives and neighbors. I became a good person by following the principles of Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance. I also validated the wonders of Falun Dafa to those whom I had hurt before.
I took the initiative to talk to the neighbor who beat me before and helped her whenever I could. I didn’t mind if she ignored me. One day, a peddler came to my house to purchase eggs. I went to my neighbor and gave her the chance to earn some money by selling eggs. This gesture finally eliminated the bad feelings between us.
I gave money to my son and daughter-in-law to buy a house, and I cooked good meals for them when they came to visit. I talked to my daughter-in-law about Falun Dafa; however, she didn’t listen and called me a fool.
My daughter-in-law developed heavy bleeding because of an ectopic pregnancy. The doctor said she would need at least a month to recover.
I took care of her and read Zhuan Falun to her every day that she was in the hospital. Within three days, the nurse said she was surprised by her speedy recovery. I told the nurse that I read a book on Falun Dafa to my daughter-in-law. The icy feelings between my daughter-in-law and I melted through my taking care of her and clarifying the truth about Falun Dafa on many occasions.
Although I was not rich, I always tried my best to help my brother and sister-in-law. I didn’t think about the costs or worry that they wouldn't pay me back when I gave them money. Through these attitudes, I built a much better relationship with them.
I was no longer angry after my husband beat me. I even smiled at him. Finally, he felt embarrassed and didn’t beat me any more.
I am now welcomed by family members, friends, and neighbors. They trust me now. Many people knew I was previously difficult to deal with but became good-tempered after practicing Falun Dafa.
I am sincerely thankful that Falun Dafa brought such a complete change in me. I say from my heart: Falun Dafa is good!
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