(Minghui.org) I recently read in a practitioner’s experience sharing article about the reincarnation of Wei Zhongxian, a notorious eunuch in Chinese history. The divine being who had been arranged to reincarnate as Wei Zhongxian held no fear of playing this wicked role, even though it would create a lot of karma. He had let go of his attachment to himself to do what was needed to set an example for history.
The article reminded me of my relationship with my husband, who often scolds me. I now wonder if he is here to help me get rid of my resentment and resistance to criticism. Sometimes we think our family members are abusing us, but their role may be to help us do what we need to do to improve on our cultivation path.
Master has told us,
“But we’ve said that as a practitioner, you shouldn’t hit back when attacked, or talk back when insulted—you should hold yourself to a high standard.” (The Fourth Talk, Zhuan Falun)
Most practitioners are nice to ordinary people but may not do well when dealing with their family members’ criticism. Although I don’t do anything wrong, my husband keeps blaming me and accusing me unfairly. I should look within seriously.
From the time I was young, I saw my dad take everything out on my mother. I made up my mind not to marry anyone like my dad. This notion has been with me for a long time. I don’t want to be criticized. I am easily filled with resentment. Even when sitting by myself, a fleeting memory could make me feel resentful. After reading many fellow practitioners’ sharing articles, I was able to identify my notion and stop it when it surfaced. I used to admire those couples who got along and treated each other well. I asked myself, “Am I here to pursue a happy marriage? My true home is in Heaven.”
Although he is ill-tempered, my husband didn’t use to lose his temper so easily. But these last few years, due to the stress of his job, he often gives me a hard time. Sometimes I thought of divorcing him just like most women today would do. I failed to eliminate the idea that wasn’t from my genuine self. The old forces took advantage of my loophole and escalated our conflicts.
I have finally identified the notion and completely denied it. I should only walk the path paved by Master, not by the old forces. Sometimes I saw karma fall on my husband, and his temper escalated. I pitied him and thanked him inside for helping me cultivate.
I hope that fellow practitioners who are in similar situations will stay alert, uproot their notions, and walk the path of great divine beings.
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