(Minghui.org) Mothers have been selfless in their love for their children since ancient times. In recent times, Chinese mothers’ love, care, concern, and even doting on their children has reached an unbelievable high level.
I grew up being an affectionate person when it came to my parents, my siblings, and especially to my daughter and granddaughter. I was afraid that my daughter’s health would be affected if she worked too hard, that my granddaughter would eat unhealthy food, and that she could not study well when she grew up. Also that she would be influenced by the bad social trends. I was always thinking about them. After practicing Falun Dafa, I understood that I should let go of family affection, but I had difficulty doing so completely and often fell back into my old trends.
Master said:
“You are unable to interfere with the lives of others, and neither can you control others’ fates, including those of your wife, sons, daughters, parents, or brothers. Can you decide those things?” (Lecture Four, Zhuan Falun)
To eliminate this attachment I memorized this section of the Fa and often told myself the importance of it. But when encountering problems, this attachment often came back.
One night, my daughter said to me, “Mother, I found that my child has become disobedient. She is unwilling to communicate with me and has secretly made an appointment with her classmates to play a scary video game. I am so worried that she will enter a rebellious period. I don’t know what to do?” After hearing this, my heart was in knots and I was moved again. But I comforted her from both the perspective of ordinary people and the perspective of Fa principles. Finally, she said, “Mother, I understand much better. You can rest.”
I realized that it was almost midnight, so I sent righteous thoughts. As soon as I sat down, I reached tranquility. I felt like I was sitting on the flat top of a mountain, and in front of me was a desolate land that stretched as far as one could see. The ground was dry and there were many cracks. I wanted to see the blue sky and white clouds, green mountains and green waters, but I couldn’t see them. There was no light.
A little later, I arrived at the entrance of a cave and walked down the steps. There was light below, but when I looked down, I couldn’t see the bottom. It appeared to be a bottomless pit. I was startled and immediately began shouting, “I want to go home with Master! I want to go home with Master!” I shouted repeatedly what I understood in my mind, each time louder than the last, to show the urgency of the matter. At this time, it felt as if I was no longer going down, but going up. But it was still the same as before. There was no light and it was desolate. I was in shock, as it was so dangerous!
I felt truly scared. I am a Dafa practitioner, and Master has rescued me from hell. The evil took advantage of me because of my persistence in family setimentality, and almost dragged me into hell again. The scene was real and alarming, and it was truly dangerous!
Why can’t I let go of my sentimentality to my daughter? Why is my daughter, now in her 40s, still dependent on me mentally? Does my child have more things to worry about than most? I am almost 70 years old. Do I still have to help solve problems for my daughter? When will I cultivate more diligently ?
At the onset of my cultivation, I felt that being a human was very difficult, and this is why I started practicing Dafa. I wanted to completely escape from the sea of suffering in life. However to this day I still have not completely escaped the fetters of family ties. I know that Master is worried about me, and gave me a clear hint. I am grateful to Master for his compassion!
I have thought much about my current state of cultivation. I understood up to a certain degree that whether or not I can escape from the sea of suffering does not depend on the reality itself, but on how I cultivate my own thoughts.
Master’s teachings made me truly understand the seriousness of cultivation, and that I can’t do anything half-heartedly.
I wrote this article to remind other practitioners, who, like me, can’t break away from family sentimentality. We must be vigilant and let go of the attachment to family sentimentality with our children as soon as possible. Even ordinary people know that children and grandchildren have their own fate, let alone us, as cultivators.
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